When I was younger, I just assumed that all romantic relationships were monogamous, and that as soon as you had the boyfriend / girlfriend conversation you would only be with that person. Because that’s the reality that society, TV, and the film industry sells to you. I did have a couple of relationships in myContinue reading “Goodbye Monogamy Hello Polyamory”
I went back on OkCupid because in no particular order:
I don’t learn my lessons. 2. Sex.
I started talking to a guy called Jack. We texted quite a lot before meeting, bonding over our mutual love of Peep Show, Venn diagrams, and roller-coasters
Our first date was the best date I’ve ever had. We went ice skating at Ally Pally ice rink. We got there too early, so walked around the gardens first. I fancied him as soon as I saw him, and I could tell he fancied me too.
I started to realise the double standards around anal, and how some men were expecting us to be willing to be fucked in the arse, when some of them would freak out if you even tried to put a finger in there.
One of my friends, who has mostly dated people from OkCupid, asked me recently whether I thought I would meet someone IRL, and if that’s even possible now. So I decided to make a pie chart of all the men I’ve dated/had sex with since University and how I met them. The good news isContinue reading “So how did you two meet?”
I decided that in order to attract a relationship, I needed to give off more of a relationship vibe on OkCupid, so I re-answered a couple of questions, added ‘no hookups’ to my profile, took off some of the sexier pics (which I shouldn’t have to do but I thought ‘okay I’ll play the game’),Continue reading “Men are a Distraction (Flaky Chris, Horny Nathan, and Sexual Harassment)”
So after my recent revelations about casual sex, I decided to approach my dating life with a view to it turning into something more meaningful. Okay if you’re really going to make me say it. I’m looking for a boyfriend. This means when I’m seeing someone, I will be waiting for a while before IContinue reading “Holding out for a hero (decent guy)”
On Friday night I went to see ‘How to Date a Feminist’ at the Arcola Theatre. I’ve just started a programme called ‘The Artist’s Way’, all about releasing your creativity, which involves taking your inner artist on a date once a week. I often go to things alone anyway, as I enjoy (often prefer) myContinue reading “How to Date a Feminist”
Okay so he wasn’t THAT old. He was 37. But given that I almost exclusively go for men in their twenties, he was fucking ancient in comparison. We met on Tinder and had been chatting for about a week. We arranged to meet at King’s Cross on Wednesday at 2pm and go for coffee. HeContinue reading “Date with an older man (Fleabag, pizza, and murder)”
I wasn’t sure whether to post this or not, but on Sunday night I messaged the Tory to ask him what he thought of my blog about him (yes I know, why do I still need his validation?!) and told him I was thinking about putting up the list of things I hate about him,Continue reading “23 things I hate about the Tory”